You’ve
been gone for almost 18 years now and I still miss you very much. I doubt that
will ever go away. Although you did not give birth to me, I think of you as my
mom and I’ll always love you. There was a brief period during fourth grade that
I was not happy you were my mom and you almost died and I told my teacher that
it didn’t matter because my dad would just remarry. I apologize for being
insensitive but I know you never held that against me. You always loved me like
I was biologically yours.
There
is one thing that has bothered me for almost 20 years and I want to ask your
forgiveness for something that happened a couple years before you died. I said something
to you without knowing what I was talking about and wish I could go back in
time and take it back. I wish I could have been more supportive of you but I
didn’t know. I know ignorance is not a good excuse but I was insensitive and I
didn’t realize it at the time. I see things much more clearly in hindsight and
if you were here, I’d apologize in person.
I
don’t remember all the details but something happened between you and dad while
I was visiting and I came up to you and said, “You just have to understand
where dad’s coming from” or something similar about needing to understand her
husband. I thought I understood my dad because I thought I was a lot like him
and that you just didn’t understand. Looking back I realize that I was the one
who didn’t understand and you understood all too well and that’s why you stood
there and cried in the kitchen. I wish I had supported you and not questioned
your wisdom and understanding.
Please
forgive me for not realizing the pain that dad put you through for most of your
marriage to him. I know you kept it to yourself and endured quietly in pain. I
know I couldn’t have done much about it except pray. I believe God answered my
prayer when God took you home but I’ll tell you that story some other time.
I’ve
cried because I’ve missed you and can’t talk to you any more but I’ve always
been happy for you that you’re now “home,” happy, and content, something you
didn’t have much of while here on earth.
The
only reason I’d wish you back here is to meet my family. I wish I could
introduce you to my wife and your three grandchildren. It’s just been the past few
months that we’ve had to start explaining why you’re not here. They know you
died but don’t know the details. As they get older we’ll explain more but for
now we’ll share as they ask questions.
I
know you’ll be glad that the Key’s have become Grandma and Grandpa in your
place. They do a great job and have really shown love and support to our family
and we really appreciate them. I know you’re not surprised by this.
I
can’t wait to see you some day. Can you say “hi” to my mother for me? I’d like
to think that you two are worshiping our Creator together. I’m looking forward
to the time when I can do that with both of you.
You’re
always in my thoughts. I love you!
Your
son,
Tim